Having worked on Niteflirt for 8 years now, I’ve seen the introduction of various new features on the site, notably Goodie Bags (which I love) and chat (which I have mixed feelings about).
I am writing this post to give clients perspective on the pros and cons of chat from the POV of a Flirt. I do not presume to speak for all Flirts, but it will give you some insight to how the features works (or doesn’t work) for me.
Chat Pros:
Provides an alternative to a phone call when a client cannot call.
Provides a low pressure alternative to calling, especially if a client is new to Niteflirt, or new to working with me.
Offers some compensation for non-phone communication, as opposed to mail. (It takes time to read written communication, and time is money).
Chat Cons:
Flirts are only paid for responding to the most recent message received. This sometimes leads to a client sending a huge volume of messages, with the flirt only getting paid to read one of them. I personally believe that clients should be charged per message sent, in order to curtail “spamming” of this nature. The downside of this is sometimes it forces me to cut my responses short in order to “keep up” with a fast typer, or else I barely get paid for chatting.
There is no character limit on the messages that can be sent. This is a problem with cut and paste spammers who get off on writing super long descriptions of their fantasies and sending them out to dozens of Flirts under the pretense of inquiring about a call. Guys- don’t do this, unless you want to piss off every Flirt on the site.
Clients are not charged for sending photos. This can lead to flirts being inundated with unwanted graphic sexual images.
Unlike calls, Flirts are unable to set their preferred rate for chat.
Chat requires a lot of time and focus for Flirts to be properly compensated under the current structure, time that could be better spent on a call, working on goodies, and so forth. I can’t afford to give my undivided attention to a chat session the same way I would with a call, it’s simply not worth it. Unfortunately, some people attempt to abuse the chat function in order to get cheap or free attention when they don’t want to pay for a call.
As you can see, the cons of chat heavily outweigh the pros from the Flirt side of things, and there are ways I would like to see the platform restructured (though again, this is all strictly my point of view). I personally prefer to reserve the chat feature for casual check ins, scheduling calls, and so forth- for me it cannot replace the the intimate experience of a live call.
In cases where a client does want to spend a long time chatting, or send photos, I request tributes. This is not “findom,” it shows me that a client actually values my time and energy. Here are some of my suggested guidelines for using chat as a client and keeping your Flirt happy:
Ask consent before sending a sexually graphic pic, or dick pic if you don’t already have agreement about photos with your Flirt. If the Flirt consents to receiving this content, send a $5-$10 tribute with the pic. (Remember that most women- not just Flirts- have received unwanted dick pictures at one point or another, so it can be a touchy subject for us).
If a client wants to have a long, leisurely chat with my undivided attention, I request a tribute of $25. With this tribute in place, I am able to relax and respond in a more thoughtful way without worrying about being properly compensated for my time. I find this works very well for separating clients who are serious about using chat as a legitimate alternative to phone calls from spammers and time wasters.
Wait for the Flirt to respond to your message before sending another message. That way we don’t feel like we’re racing against you in order to be paid for our time and effort.
Keep each message to 2-3 sentences max. Nobody wants to read a novel!
Don’t spam dozens of flirts with identical cut & paste content- we want to feel like you actually care about connecting with us personally.
If you want an in-depth roleplay or a lot of attention, CALL. Chatting cannot replace the intimacy of a live call!
Allow me to be blunt: if you are trying to game the chat system to get a lot of attention for cheap or free, we can tell. You will find that bad behavior will lead to you being blocked, or ignored in order to prioritize clients who are respectful. Is that really want you want out of your experience on Niteflirt?
Much love,
Goddess Eriko